AssassinsMace
Lieutenant General
If someone chooses to believe in their pathetic fantasy, why not let them?
I criticize bad behaviors by Chinese because I'm a Chinese (HK-Canadian), and I feel I'm obliged to whistleblow and call out on my own kind when they misbehave. I feel as me being from the ingroup, I possess the greatest credit and obligation to do such an action, because if we don't, no one else would. Idea being quite how the family member or friend of a misbehaving individual will have the most right to rein in the person. (note: I won't call them "Chinese bad behavior" because I believe our original culture is beautiful and taught us to act civilized and mannered, and what's currently happening in mainland is not something should be characterized as Chinese. Analogy quite like how a few Canadians being racist or doing cold-blooded things shouldn't then be used to characterize that as how Canadians are. You may say I'm being hypocritical, but all along my condemnations are directed towards those poor behaviors exhibited by those individuals, not the overall population they originate from.)
And as for how that's irony, I don't really get it. They can call out anything they want, because bias, prejudice, and stereotype are within people, and it's not our job to get rid of it in their systems. We can only do our parts to deny the reinforcement of these stereotypes, but ultimately it's up to them to change their attitudes. Some may and some may not, but either way they don't concern us, and it's not something we have the right to force them to see differently. Using the hot-headed approach will never get any struggles to far.
While on that, you brought up the concept of sticking up for oneself. While that is something I agree to, I disagree with your approach. You must see in yourself and must admit that your approach carries too much emotions(negative ones), bias, even hatred and anger, which I will say, will undermine the overall message and effectiveness it could've relayed. I agree with standing up for oneself, but there are reasons why MLK, Ghandhi, Mandela, are hailed as great people. They stood up for their people in the means of non-violence and wisdom. They eventually did bring out their struggles. For Asian Americans, Chinese, and any oppressed groups in the suffering of classisms, the first recognition towards making a difference is staying away from blood-drenched hatred. Hatred builds greater divide and hatred, and it won't get us anywhere. The Civil War ended slavery, but segregation and racial divide was still there. MLK and various Black Movements made the changes through peaceful civilized actions. (for my American friends, please forgive if I made mistakes in what I had written up there, as here in Canada we don't study American history all that much) Before I drag further, back to here it's the same idea. Struggles is a long road, and considering the population of Asian-Americans (1%) in the US, the struggle will require extensive time. Asian-Americans are the educated bunch, and often retaining our cultural values as well as Western individualism and understanding of the Western culture. That said, it's even greater in our part to bear the burden of behaving even more proper, as we are more understanding of racism and the need for relentless struggles than our folks back in Asia. Going on, it's true that many Asian-Americans also share the weakness of focusing on their own personal lives, but with proper motivations people will join a cause, particularly if they feel it is something which represents them.
In terms of perceptions towards China, let's not forget most people don't know China all that too well, and hence why they will speak stuffs like those. It will always exist, as there will always be people thinking MJ did surgery(when in fact he had skin disorders) We can defend or stand up for China by words of reasons, not relentless condemnations and even stretching it into other's religion(I personally think that's very insulting) Either for China or Asian Americans, it's right to stand up for oneself, but not in the methods of teeth-clenching blood hatred and anger. That's not going to get anywhere. And why I said this is because I sort of felt yours carry a very strong condemning tone, and often people who carry too much of such tone will blanket their original message. Next thing, criticisms. I think it's alright to stand up to oneself and defend with valid arguments, points, and messages, but when you begin to retaliate into calling out on their religion and various other generalizing stereotype, it just breed hatred, downturn the original purpose, and risk fueling a flame-war. There are reasons why even this forum encourages us to report misbehavior and not to retaliate with further immaturity. I think these are just common sense, and not something I had to really explain too much of.
Lastly, when you think that's how you "stand up" for your kind, the result is that not only people don't think you're telling them they're wrong, they're more likely to dismiss you and your points (no matter how valid they are) because they will think you are biased/brainwashed. You present to them as someone defending something, and defenders means they are biased towards the things they are defending. Someone who reasons will only speak what's true and factual, not taking sides, and primarily convinces by explanations. People say stupid things, and they don't always know they are. When they are corrected by provided the proper information, they are more likely to consider than blind defense, since such defense perhaps will appeal less to their cognitive sides.(Perhaps Superdog can verify if what I've just said is actually true. I just typed that stuff out as I was thinking and processing this "logic".) I'm sure you've experienced that before, and while you may think they are out to go against you, I'd say that it's extremely possible that you had committed yourself to a hole which you actually dug yourself because from your biased, senseless condemnation. By intellectualism, even people who refuses to acknowledge your point will have trouble denouncing you as biased/brainwashed/inferior because they have nothing to hold you accountable for. All in all, unless you're planning to genocide your opposition, "power grows from the barrel of the gun" and hatred-fueled condemnation and criticisms will rarely win the minds or earn the respect of the population that matters most; your opponents. Let's not forget Ghandi's "eye for an eye makes the world blind". Sure insults and attacks to our group happens a lot, but with proper civilized actions we can still present ourselves as strong power fueled by an unified legitimate message that forces the offender to apologize.
Finally, criticism is a very important thing in Chinese culture, don't you know? Confucius teaches humility and modesty, and part of it comes from being able to take criticisms. If all these pro-China people thinks every criticism(even the constructive ones with insightful advices) as attacks to their culture, and thus they have to go beserk and do everything to defend their title because they "think" they are "standing up" for their culture, including denying/ignoring the proper criticisms ones, bashing the critics, and blaming and saying it's just people being against China, then seriously I think these people have a very severe issue of cultural inferiority complex. They can complain about how others bash their own culture because of inferiority complex, but are they not even worse, by defending China irrationally every time? They are just as bad as those bashers, except worse, and just a different breed of the same thing. Them and their defence mechanisms. Unknown to them, those people always lose, even though they thought they won by being more aggressive than others.(Like the example you mentioned at the top regarding arrogant people) No one respects them, and no one thinks they won because they never brought out any real points to sweep the debate in their favor.
We Chinese with our 5000 years of history have a lot in us and should've taught us what a true civilization is, and so why are we now not behaving like we should?
And seriously, there will always be monkeys throwing feces everywhere. It doesn't mean we should follow suit.
I can understand the core ideas you're presenting and they're things I would agree to, but the problem is you shouldn't get them mixed, and with emotions. I'm going to be really dead honest with you here not because I harbor anything personal against you, but rather I want to point something out and hope my share are helpful.
You've presented strong arguments and points often in your posts, but hints of emotions displayed in your posts often work against the strength and the respect that your posts should've deserved.
You're thinking is not unique and Asians still complain. Where did I suggest violence?
In my college years a couple friends and I were actually politically active. We weren't an organization or affiliated with one. I've mention this before that San Francisco's Chinatown use to be constantly under assault by animals rights activists for the sale of live animals for food. The reaction from Chinese community leaders followed much of your thinking. Then the animal rights activists tried passing a law to ban the sale of live animals for food in Chinatown. Problem was it didn't include any of the other parts of San Francisco that also sold live animals for food like Fisherman's Wharf.
I was a contributor to an English language Asian-American newspaper that allowed me to take on these animal rights activists and their arguments for this ban. The leader of the animal rights organization was personally using this newspaper in letters to the editor to give his rude opinions. I countered much like I do here. I pointed out every hypocrisy and flaw. And you know what happened? The newspaper and I got threats of being fire bombed if my editorials did not cease. The typical reaction from Chinese is that it was my fault and I brought this onto myself. But of course the newspaper and I understood our fundamental basic rights which many Chinese choose to forget. We did not cease. And guess what? No fire bombings. Then a journalist from the top newspaper in the city all of the sudden confronted the leader of this animals right organization that was leading this ban and asked the very questions I brought up including my conclusion this was all racially motivated which he did not answer when my questions were published. The truth exploded. The leader of the organization admitted that the Democratic establishment of San Francisco told him to only target Chinatown because if he went for a city-wide ban, he would get no support. Did this journalist read my editorials to then confront this leader who wasn't answering when I impose them? No one in the Chinese community ever approached my tactic. The editor of the newspaper I contributed to believes I can take credit. The move to pass this law lost steam as elected officials started to publicly go against the measure. After that no animals rights organization has said a word publicly ever since. Now since then I haven't seen live animals for food in SF Chinatown. Was there some agreement in the years afterwards made behind the scenes? I don't know but that's the way it should've been done in the first place and not the rude public display of racism, ethnocentrism, and xenophobia that was sought to be exploited to get support. And these people are Democrats and liberals. They would have never used those racist tactics with more politically vocal minorities groups in which some had public markets that sold live animals for food in their neighborhoods in San Francisco and weren’t subject to this ban.
Now during this process my friends and I got a lot of resistance from Chinese pretty much from people that take your position. I even took on one of the newspaper's columnists who was Filipino and an animal rights activist. He actively used his column to support this ban. But because I'm media aware, I knew a dark secret about this columnist. He would be used by radio talk show stations around California as a substitute fill-in. I've heard on more than one occasion where he would advocate legalizing eating dogs in the US. And you know why this animal rights activist would advocate legalizing eating dog? It was always because someone publicly, mostly comedians on TV, made fun of Filipinos eating dogs. So when it got personal with him, being a bitch was more important than the ethical treatment of animals. I revealed this information publicly but of course the editor was stunned and she had to confirm it with him before she published my revelation. Of course he had to admit to it. Now what would've happened if we chose to be passive and not confrontational with all these hypocrites pointing the finger at the Chinese?
I know Chinese like to be followers of what's successful. I'll give you an example from my experience. Back in college I took a class where I used basically the same tactics in discussion. From the start of the semester, the instructor loved it. But I got into an accident where someone hit my car while I was driving on the highway and I had to go through a little physical therapy where it interfered with my school studies. The instructor noticed it in my homework. So he called me aside and asks what was up and I explained what happened. He told me not worry about it and he was going to give me an "A" in the class and it was only a third of the way into the semester.
Here’s another story that didn’t have to do with same tactics but thinking out of the box which in the same vein. I took a Strategy and War class. The professor asked the class to write a strategy on how we would’ve conducted the first Gulf War from Saddam Hussein’s perspective. I wrote about how the first Iraq War was the first major military conflict the US has experienced since Vietnam. The US was still experiencing the Vietnam Syndrome which caused hesitation among Americans. If I were Saddam I would go all in and try to inflict as many casualties on Americans as possible in order to exploit the Vietnam Syndrome to make Americans turn against the war.
We finished writing and the class split into groups and we read each other’s strategy. A lot of students were writing tactics of warfare not strategy. Others were taking their personal beliefs and imposing them onto Saddam Hussein adhering to UN charters and resolutions and looking for Iraq to get out of its mess. I was hit with a lot criticism that I misunderstood the assignment. I even had someone offended that “I” would write something that advocated the deaths of Americans. After the group session was over, everyone had to read out loud their strategy to the class. Same thing was happening where mostly everyone wrote tactics or their own beliefs imposed onto Saddam Hussein. Then it was my turn. I was a little nervous because of the criticism. When I finished reading, the professor pointed his finger at me and said, “That’s what’s called strategy.” After that when it came to the turn of some of the people who criticized me, they changed what they wrote to make it more sound like real strategy.
I know it sounds like I’m tooting my own horn. But what I do is nothing special and everyone should be exercising critical thinking because that’s what it is. This thread is about why the West gets it wrong? Yeah that’s because there’s no critical thinking taking place. Do you think being passive helps in critical thinking? No, it makes the offender think they’re right and they continue on doing the same thing over and over again. Your position is nothing new to the Chinese and it’s gotten them nothing. The Chinese don’t get points for doing nothing and expecting respect from people who are out to offend is absurd. People who criticize Chinese bad behavior don’t see redeeming qualities from Chinese being passive. They see only the stereotype of bad behavior as the Chinese being uncivilized. So the idea of passivity as an act of civility is worthless.
I get the idea that you think I’m defending bad behavior of the Chinese. I’m sick of it too when it happens. I’ll advocate the death penalty for the kid that defaced ruins in Egypt. Even though I fight against animal rights activists, I’m for the death penalty for Chinese who traffic in endangered animals. But when I take a step back, I see “Chinese” who perpetuate the stereotype of Chinese bad behavior also happen to be the people trying to separate their identity from being Chinese. I see the same disgusting selfishness involved here that’s pointed out about bad behaving Chinese. In my eyes they’re all in the same mentality. Like you said about me, I don’t agree with your tactics. They have been proven a failure. The irony is the critics of Chinese bad behavior always use the West as some sort of model. But when it comes to the Western trait of confronting people when wronged, somehow we’re not supposed to embrace that part of the West.
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