I don't see China wanting respect from US, maybe the individuals sure, but lately I haven't seen them giving US any concessions, in fact the opposite has been happening where China is continuing to expand their influence in the pacific region and standing firm on their position with Russia which angers US a lot. If China wanted US to respect them, then these actions doesn't show that, the only way US will ever respect China is if China becomes a vassal state to the US.I would love if China could just ignore the US but it doesn't. Even though US power is diminishing, Chinese still want some respect from the US. I've told this story before where I was a friend's party. They had a daughter that was intentionally annoying the guests one by one. You can tell everyone was bothered but they didn't say anything. She finally got to me and I ignored her for the moment and when she wasn't satisfied that I didn't give the attention she expected, she started hitting me with a bean bag toy she was holding. I took the bean bag away from her and she was angry and said, "I hate you!" And then I said, "Good I love it when you hate me." She was shocked and started crying and walked away never bothering anyone again. Did I do something wrong? Did I abuse a child? No, she was upset because I didn't respond as expected. She expected me to be upset at her hating me and she surely didn't expect joy from being hated by her. It did not compute in her young mind so all she could was retreat. The US is that arrogant daughter. Ignoring is not enough. They have to know the consequences and the best ones are the ones they don't expect. Does anyone think Americans would care if they sunk a Chinese carrier and killed hundreds of Chinese? No, they would be celebrating. It's not surprising they would expect the opposite if one of their carriers were sunk. That's the lopsided relationship they expect and it should be thrown in their face that those are legitimate targets simply because the US would not hold back in targeting a Chinese carrier.
On US acting like a spoiled brat, this is to be expected from a nation with a hegemonic mindset, but if you look beyond the veneer of arrogance and bravado, the decision makers are still somewhat reasonable, especially those serving in their army, their attitudes are not a true reflection of their intellect and decision making. China doing tic for tat and punishment doesn't really win anything other than spiritual victory, and sometimes it serves US interest by having China react harshly, its better to focus on their own interest instead of being the one to react all the time.
Also when US is threatening to nuke China if their own aircraft carrier being destroyed its a show of weakness and insecurity not strength, a confident superpower will not resort to threatening using the nuclear stick if they think they can win. I also don't find the threat of nuclear escalation if their aircraft carrier getting destroyed credible because of MAD doctrine, and probably the reason for such a response is because they know they rely heavily on their navy for power projection. I wonder what would be left of US military power if all of their aircraft carriers are destroyed.