This is a very deep post, IMHO.
What I noticed, is that a lot of Chinese girls in the west, opt out of marrying a Chinese man. The simple reason I tend to believe, is that the burden is too much.
It is a burden to be Chinese, we must do our part and play our roles. That is the Confucian culture that came from antiquity passed all the way down until now.
But here, there is where life intervenes and things turn whacky. Most of these mixed marriages between a Chinese girl and white guy, their household eventually goes full Chinese. I think these Chinese girls figured something out, that us Chinese guys miss. They are working the system, so to speak. Well, if they are, then I guess that is good, I suppose. With white guys, the Chinese girl will push them around, to lessen the burden of being Chinese. That's pretty sharp I thought.
The part of trying to live one's life in a selfless manner, that came out of one of the ancient texts, forget which one.
It probably will come back, sometime, lol.
It is very interesting, this concept of a "Chinese Wall." First time I heard about this term, I thought, "Yeah, that is what that is exactly!"
As the years went on by, one day, I realized something. That other side of that wall, I don't understand it at all. I understand that it is there, and I can acknowledge its existence, but I do not understand it.
Like understand it, understand it.
That is why I consider myself to be fresh off the boat.