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Tam

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Amen, and thanks Tam, its friends like you here on Sino Defense that bring us together in such a way that we have some empathy and understanding for one another.... those who have known me a while?? I hope could see a little improvement in my demeanor...

One a positive note, our twins have each given birth to a son, beautiful, lovely baby boys, and my tender hearted daughter, is in the process of adopting a young Chinese boy.... I'm very proud of my new grandsons, all three of them...

My congratulations to your new grandchildren!! [Balloons, firecrackers, and whistling!]
 

Air Force Brat

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My congratulations to your new grandchildren!! [Balloons, firecrackers, and whistling!]
Amen to all of that, and I wish you could be here to see them, they are amazing, I've never been so Blessed Tam, well, I have, but I wasn't expecting all of this.... it does help as I say good bye to my brother..
 

Air Force Brat

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Hey right now in Cedar Rapids Iowa USA it is snowing. I just took this photo;

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The pavement is too warm for the snow to accumulate on the sidewalks and roads.. Last year we got quite a bit of snow in March and April.

Hey AFB, it's headed your way!
and it came our way in the form of rain, we've had a wet soggy week with a few periods of sunshine, a wet spring so far now, no farming of note going on at present..

We had school in normal session on Monday, school was closed Tuesday, with kitchen staff preparing meals for students whose parents requested, both breakfast and lunch. Teachers have been delivering lunch and interacting with parents and students as we dropped off those meals.

Gas stations and Grocery stores will remain open hopefully, but that could change, many businesses here in Central Illinois and around the state are closed or closing....

Our school closure has been extended through April 7, 2020 and the governor just ordered Illinois citizens to stay home unless involved in essential business such as medical, pharmacy, banking, building supplies, hardware, grocery, etc, etc,.
 
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Air Force Brat

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and it came our way in the form of rain, we've had a wet soggy week with a few periods of sunshine, a wet spring so far now, no farming of note going on at present..

We had school in normal session on Monday, school was closed Tuesday, with kitchen staff preparing meals for students whose parents requested, both breakfast and lunch. Teachers have been delivering lunch and interacting with parents and students as we dropped off those meals.

Gas stations and Grocery stores will remain open hopefully, but that could change, many businesses here in Central Illinois and around the state are closed or closing....

Our school closure has been extended through April 7, 2020 and the governor just ordered Illinois citizens to stay home unless involved in essential business such as medical, pharmacy, banking, building supplies, hardware, grocery, etc, etc,.
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Sir Sterling Moss went to be with tht Lord today! what a competitor and gentleman!
 

BMEWS

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So yea we were on another forum talking about J-20 when suddenly we started going off-topic about our personal lives. I kinda opened this thread for a change because after a whole day of hardcore military discussions and talks about muscles and hard power, I think it's not a bad idea to switch the tempo around for something more chillaxing and less uptight. We can be disagreeing with one another over J-20s and Liaoning, but we can still enjoy a decent chat about more lively stuffs right..or can we?

Anyways this thread is supposed to be relaxing and entertaining...so please lay off politics and just take a chill pill. If you find this thread retarded or thinking "why the hell should I share my life with you guys? I don't even know you", you can still poke fun and joke and whatever. After all this thread is supposed to be a relaxing place, so let's just have fun shall we.

Just to start this thread off, I remember telling you guys about my intentions to ask my Korean date to be my girlfriend. Result was: I went to a nearby florist location to buy a dozen roses. Was deciding hard which colors to get, and the lady advised pink, as red = love and she felt I shouldn't scare her off. I checked online and realized pink roses meant something else, so I went back to my judgement and picked red 'cause I remembered that's her favorite color. We then realized the roses would whither and die after an hour of no water, so we left it in the sink and I was supposed to go back and pick up the roses later. I also wrote a little card for her asking her to be my gf and stick it in the roses. After class I went to grab them flowers and snuck them into my backpack before my date shows up. We went to her place and she cooked for me. She kept asking me to eat first, although I waited for her all the way until she's ready. And after a night of kimchi and red Korean food, it's time. I plugged on a special playlist of romantic songs that I handpicked last night on my iPhone and then asked her to close her eyes while I went to grab the flowers and bring them over. When she opened her eyes, she was so happy and shocked, I felt so happy seeing her that way. Her eyes widened and she covered her mouth with her hand as she took the roses to her and said how beautiful they were. Turned out the roses were also the first time she ever received flowers from anyone. She then noticed the card and said she wanted to open it instantly, and of course things were going great. But that's not all. Next step I pulled out a ring that I made with aluminum during grade 8 metalworking class, and told her I had always saved it for who I hoped would be the future one. Anyways needless to say, I asked her to be my gf and she said yes. She was so happy and hugged me. That night she told her best friend about it and her friend was so happy and envious of her the same time. I gave her an extra surprise later on that night: she woke up to find me finishing her dishes. She was so shocked and asked why I was doing all those, and I told her she cooked for the entire day and must be tired. Some time this week she told me she was so happy to have gotten to known me; "you're like my angel."

Now the only regrets I had was not having filmed the entire event.

If anyone thinks or say I'm doing too much for just a girlfriend, my only words would be, "When you feel you've met the right one, then that means she's the only one. You only have one, so you better cherish. Your soul-mate ain't your tool to demonstrate your ego; instead she should be where you can truly reveal your true self, and her to truly appreciate who you are. This is why truthful relationship with one another through good communications, and even doing small little things, even if it seemed a bit too much, is actually what shows the other person you truly care and appreciate them."

Anyways aside from this cheesy love stuff, we can be talking about other things. I'll show you guys my Tamiya 1/48 F-15C and Hasegawa 1/48 F-22A in a few days.
What is Happiness? Happiness the word itself is quite general and vague... so to qualify our remarks its important to make a distinction between specific happiness (outcome dependent) and a more general abstract happiness (broader in scope)....

Happiness is the overlay substrate that exists as a layered byproduct side-effect or emergent properties of this biochemical process that we call "life"... So happiness is both an evolutionary adaptive in the darwinistic sense, and also a particular mode of existence and survival strategy in terms of reproductive fitness etc...(Depression, on the other hand, also is an evolutionary adaption to a certain set of resource /environment scarcity scenario)

Since the modern world has all but completely decoupled from its evolutionary underpinnings (and make no mistake in the long term this is not sustainable but for now its the way it has been for the past several decades/centuries?) its important to see the big picture first, and then having the frame of references, frameworks, datapoints and fuller context, go and identity and decide if happiness is the goal, which particular types or archetypes of happiness are best suited for oneself, and how to go about pursuing and enjoying that happiness...
 

BMEWS

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I think in a post-UBI (Universal Basic Income) world in which income is decoupled from work, machines taking over for physical and intellectual labor, and the cost of all labor from janitors to CEO across the board reduced to mere electricity or electric costs, then more important than ever is up keeping and perfecting the aesthetic physique in both genders. Esp. that women will become much less reliant on men for resources, therefore decoupling status, wealth, intellect, power from that of attraction in terms of mating strategies.

I believe the true value of any man is not defined by how much money he makes nor how spiritual he is nor how much weights he can lift, nor by how hard he works, nor how smart he is, etc but that it is actually measured by the beauty of the woman he partakes and behold. In essence, Beauty being the most honest signifier in any woman, the real measure of success of a man is if he can obtain an extremely beautiful woman in his life to love and to hold, everything else is secondary.

The most effective strategy is just to directly go after what actually matters the most. And in order to do that we have to know what it is we really want, what is most important. In my opinion our modern contemporary view of self-worth and societal definition of happiness and success is warped,at best misguided if not altogether misplaced. And it is true that biologically we are not that fundamentally different from our nomadic hunter and gatherer ancestors whom evolved and lived on the grassy plains along the river and who had no concept of abstractions such as accumulation of wealth or the massing of knowledge, or saving for retirement, etc.

It is perhaps all about the so-called 'second law' of thermodynamics. Which is also intertwined with the concept called the "arrow of time". Nature abhors a vacuum, we simply live in a universe (there are probably infinite universes, I'm just talking about ours) in which entropy maximization/optimization is the highest order directive. It is the only real imperative, if you will, that drives everything else. Indeed, life itself and including evolution by natural selection, etc... are all direct and inevitable consequences of entropy maximization. It is such a simple concept and principle, and yet when truly understood, it solves and answers everything.

My hunch is, due to the 2nd law, the evolution of the neocortical regions of our brains in the homo sapien species (aka advanced monkeys that first evolved opposable thumbs) intelligence evolved in humans because there was so much energy potential in the ground, such energy gradients required an advanced mammalian species to come along in order to truly take advantage of it and help it speed up the inevitable journey of low entropy to high entropy. The evolution of intelligence in biological lifeforms such as us and the emergence of complex systems (math, science, written language, human society, social networks/civilization, specialization of skill, economies of scale, industrial revolution, the computer age, etc) are the direct result of the impeding march towards optimization of equalization of energy gradients.

In the context of a dyadic interpersonal romantic relationship, Love evolved to keep two people together for long enough to give their offspring the highest chance of survival in order to pass down their genes to the future generation; it is merely one of many strategies (infidelity being another one) that conforms to the overarching darwinistic evolutionary structure of the pressures of natural selection dictating which asymmetric sexual strategies and tactics an individual uses in this survival of the fittest. Taken in aggregate, however, it merely is nature's way of letting the best rise to the top, in this larger survival of the species-as-a-whole endgame. It also exemplifies our concept of "good" vs "bad", and goes to show that all our laws, law and order, our rules and systems and practices in society and civilization exists to serve entropy maximization. For example, criminal behavior like theft benefits the individual criminal who gets away with it, but the reason bad guys get locked up (social contract/ insurance policy) is because society as a whole suffers, and society as a whole benefits from the greater good of cooperation when everyone is subjected to certain laws/norms/etc in which is conducive to creating the sort of stability that in the long run helps best facilitate the perpetual growth of society itself (and thus by extension fastest net rate of energy consumption, resource extraction, aka entropy maximization).

It all boils down to entropy maximization and feelings like happiness and love are merely different aspects of this one multifaceted driving force in the universe.

We are thus hardwired to instinctively find most salient, compelling and visceral the elements of being alive, and it is this that truly brings out the most genuine forms of happiness in each of us. There are many perspectives in life but I choose to think one of the greatest of them all is the enjoyment of femininity, there is nothing more alluring than to take in the raw essence of such a sensually captivating woman, such an emotively poignant woman, and to be graced by the view and the gift of her absolute tenderness, total vulnerability, and flowering surrender.

For example, this has lead me to believe that, for a man, he should definitely put a lot of emphasis on the “aesthetics-first” approach. While not everyone can become a CEO, or sign up for the Delta Forces, or write a best-seller or walk on the moon, every man can indeed carve and chisel an aesthetically perfect physique, as long as if he was willing to put in the dedication and effort. Getting a rock solid six pack abs and becoming lean yet very muscular, while indeed hard work and difficult, is far more achievable for the average man, especially in terms of scalability, than say earning a noble peace prize or becoming a professional Go player or getting a PhD or winning the lottery, for example.

But the “aesthetics-first” approach is not the same as being physically fittest, nor muscularly strongest, nor does it mean excelling at sports. It simply is aesthetics for aesthetics sake, and here the “means” and the “ends” are one and the same. We all find ourselves in the unique situation of being stuck in between a rock and a hard place in that we are still in some aspects beholden to our vestigial traits of eons ago and the remnants of our evolutionary past, and yet find ourselves in a new age in which a lot of what used to have mattered have been rendered all but redundant and obsolete from a functional perspective. Women prefer taller men because as humans we evolved in the tall grassy plains in which the early proto-men who were able to stand up taller and more erect were also able to better see both potential prey and avoid possible dangers in the distance, yet in today’s society where food is no longer a real concern to survival (in fact due to automation and economics of scale less than 1% of the US labor force is actually involved in the production of food) and the inventions of modern day weapons such as firearms affords the average human more than sufficient protection against the largest of wild and aggressive animals, (not to mention that 911, Police, and the Law and Order infrastructure has all but outsourced individual protection to the abstract concept of the State) there is no longer the functional advantage nor the survival need for women to prefer physically taller or muscularly stronger men, (and yet they do) hence the visceral preference has long been entirely decoupled from its evolutionary functional underlines. The undeniable fact is that there is a very long lag time, if you will, between the circumstances that our ancestors evolved under from an anthropological perspective, and that of the actual modern circumstances that we find ourselves in today. In essence, we now collectively exists in a state where our rewards are no longer directly associated with actual survival, and many things like men’s preference for beautiful women are much akin to the peacock’s runaway sexual selection. Beauty serves itself, and is its own intrinsic meaning, value and good.
 

BMEWS

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Aesthetics and pleasure for their own sakes. We are to enjoy pleasures that have underlining mechanisms which no longer serve any true or active function. There is no better example of this than perhaps couples having sex while wearing condoms or on contraceptives. Thus, in all aspects of life we should understand how Mother Nature really works, but adapt it to our current environment and modern surroundings and learn how to allow ourselves to take advantage of the pleasures of life (which are primitive and evolved during the cavemen and stone age eras) whilst at the same time mentally and emotively separating, casting aside and disassociating them from the underlining mechanisms that they used to (but no longer) serve. After all, there is nothing natural about driving a car across town to go lift heavy plates on a contraption called an exercise machine, when in reality a physically fit body used to signify that a man lived an active lifestyle and took risks, these days modern men who no longer need to hunt and fight for their food and daily survival merely create the illusion of Tarzan by undergoing an artificial contortion routine of hitting the gym, lifting heavy iron, using fitness apps and taking protein powder.


So to that end, and in furtherance of what we are already doing anyway, the absolute best strategy and approach for any man in improving his own physicality especially as it pertains and relates to gaining attraction and appeal from the opposite gender, is to take that of the “aesthetics-first” approach and asymmetrically concentrate on looking good, first and foremost, instead of worrying about being healthy or being strong or being coordinated. Exercise and lifting weights in pursuit of building the most attractive bodily physique that his genetics template will allow him to become is number one priority above all; everything else, such as like actual health, raw power and strength and the amount he is able to lift, bench, etc and other aspects such as eye-hand coordination and “sports skills” etc come secondary (and are unimportant) to the ‘a priori’ aesthetics imperative.


To really get the most out of life, one must find a way to play Mother Nature’s game at a better level than she can do so herself.


For me, happiness has always been about being with an extremely attractive White Woman of the Miss America type... As a Chinese American I was in New Zealand last year, right before the CIA Biovirus was deployed to Wuhan, and I realized the real question that I ask myself is if hypothetically I could actually be with a woman just like her, how would the rest of my entire life be different from an emotional and experiential perspective. I imagine that the hedonistic pleasure that I am able to constantly and perpetually derive from the enjoyment of her most perfect feminine aesthetic beauty, elegance, and grace would permeate and expand into every other aspect and component of my entire life, thus making the highs even higher and even the lows far more bearable, perhaps even enjoyable when cast under such a different light and unique perspective. Her presence, her essence and her beauty would simply serve as a sort of tint that colors and reshapes my entire lens and view on life. While objectively nothing in my external world reality may change, I know that subjectively everything changes forever. Life would simply never be the same again for me.


That sort of ubiquitous, expansive, and pervasive happiness and joy obtained from chasing, catching, and loving such an existential supremum beauty is the absolute pinnacle of existence for a man. There is nothing better or more compelling than to be able to glance at such a beautiful creature and realize anew for the first time, every time, just why she is so captivating and to re-examine her absolute memorizing beauty in such awe-inspiring wonderment. Such beauty is devastatingly distracting, and it overwhelms the senses, and yet it is calming and soothing. It nurtures and feeds, inspiring and evoking it’s counterpart masculinity. Deep down, I do believe that to be able to finally behold at long last in the flesh the physical instantiation and exact embodiment of the sort of idealistic, archetypal and classic quintessential beauty would actually be enough for me. Enough to be fully contented, immensely satisfied and happy forever. Being in that state-of-being and that zone-of-awareness feels like finally coming home and being fully completed. That illusive missing piece of the puzzle resolved.


Indeed, any man lucky enough to have a woman like that would surely feel like he had won the ultimate prize in life. Every time he makes love to her he would instinctively know that he was experiencing the very best life had to offer him, and that nothing else could ever be better nor more sweeter than that. To wake up with her by his side in bed, such satisfying experience could never be topped, duplicated or substituted by anything else he could ever hope to do on this earth or in this life.


To be loved by such a woman is perhaps not an achievement earned but a gift freely bestowed. If love is such an intensely powerful force of life, then perhaps there are none more compelling, more liberating, more exhilarating and more intensely moving than to be truly loved, fervently, deeply, most endearingly loved and loved back in return by a woman like that.


As a man I can think of no higher highs nor more perfect of perfections than this. In the entire domain, range, and spectrum of the totality of all reality and existence, taking into account and consideration the vastly ennumerable palettes of qualia, such categorical perceptions, analytical overlays and neural correlates of consciousness , and the aggregate mosaic of the emergent structures of all accompanying emotions, emotive constructs, experiential flows, sensations, feelings, moods, modes of existence, states of beings, and possible moments and experiences etc, if I could only make one singular wish in life, it had always been just this. I would want above all else this to be the real center of my life that everything else revolves around, and she being the central theme and fabric and tapestry of the story of my life.
 

horse

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美 女 無 窮 ,
古 人 之 言 ,
網 絡 上 遊 ,
黃 色 為 王 .

Uh ... okay ... we do not have to pay attention to the last three lines, but that first line, that is the truth.

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