During the Cold War, was it normal for American and Soviet military officers to be friends? How would that affect their careers?
Geo, there is nothing wrong with a good does of skepticism.
Having said that, the Soviets were never invited to RIMPAC. The confrontation between the Soviets and the US was called a Cold "War" for a reason. We are not currently involved with such confrontations with the Chinese.
We would far rather develop friendly relations. With the Soviets at the time that was not possible.
But Reagan and Thatcher saw that condition through to a resolution that did not involve a hot war, thank God. And in fact, last year was Russia's inaugural visit to RIMPAC. Now, Putin is aggressively pushing the US...and we all know why...so in that case the relationships that may have developed could well be overcome by events. That would be too bad...but, oh well, stuff happens.
The military is not like college where people have a lot of freedom to meet others. The military is a tightly controlled environment in which the military police are always interested in you. I don't know about enlisted soldiers and sailors but I'm sure officers have to maintain a security clearance and report all their foreign contacts.
I know precisely what the military is like. I also know exactly what the requirements for those clearances are...personally.
You will probably not find a person more dedicated to defending the US constitution and the operational security that goes along with it.
That does not change the fact that the people in the military, or those working within the US government in security or critical areas, would far rather have friends they can go out and drink with, than enemies they would have to kill, or be killed by.
Believe it or not...you can have friends and still maintain operational security.
RIMPAC is an EXCELLENT opportunity to foster those types of relations...both at the operational level and the command level. You have career officers and sr. enlisted people who spent decades in the US military telling you this on this thread, Geo.
As I said, it does not mean that they would not follow orders and win wars if called upon to do so...it does mean that they would all rather find ways to avoid that.